Apologize to my reader (if left, any) for my long disappearance. I just need some alone time to sort things out. Sometimes too many things happened can be quite a turbulence too. Yes, I’ve been busy.
Also, sorry if my post previously sounded sad or unhappy or whatnot. Up to the extent some of the peeps said that I am quite reserved. Truth been said, I gotta admit that. I think I have lost the personal “Dr. Love” touch that was once my legacy. What to say? Bitterness crumbs still there.
People says that my post is getting technical, and no more personal..
So I am getting a little bit personal this time. Anyway, a quick update first of what have been happening around me at this point of my disappearance time…
- I got a ThinkPad. That means a good thing (I am now mobile) and a bad thing (workload increase as expected)
- I went to MMU for the Academic Initiative. It was fun and it was a whole new experience to give a presentation in front of enthusiastic students + lecturers.
- I also went to MMU for their charity concert. Got to hang out with my cousin’s friend and watch a good concert (apart from the unorganized event flow)
- Went to Euphonious 2008 and I enjoyed it with all my friends there. Not going to post much about that – you can refer to here, here, here, here and here.
- Went to Dilla’s wedding with itisjan03 – enjoyed it as well to see all the familiar faces again.
Just some pictures to spice up the post:
L to R : Jakas, Megi, Muner, Me (yes I know my hair is getting longer LOL)
Dilla’s wedding – picture stolen from
Shah’s blog (I am still waiting the picture of the couple with the itisjan03….)
Okay, we’re cool? So here’s the personal part. This happened on the way back to Kuala Lumpur after Dilla’s wedding. In the car was me (driving), Zhu, Jamie, and Intan M. Conversation happened as below:
Jamie: Adek, ko bila pulak nak kawen? (Translation: Adek (referring to my nickname), when’s your time to get married then?)
Me: Aku single lagi, tadek calon, camne nak kawen? (Translation: I am still single, no candidates for wife, how to get married?)
Intan M: Oooo.. so, kalau camtu, apa kriteria perempuan yang ko nak? Meh kita tolong calon-calonkan.. (Translation: Ooo.. so, if that’s the case, what’s the criteria that you’re looking for a girl? Let me try to find the candidate..)
Me: ………………
Seriously, I don’t know what to say that time! So they started asking questions and I just throw out any answers that I have in mind at that time. So nice of you, Intan and Jamie! 
. For that, I made a promise to myself to blog about this.
Well, I did blog about the dream girl that I wanted in this post long ago, but as my favourite saying goes: “What we are is always the same, but who we are, will never stop changing“..
And I’ve changed. A lot. A whole damn lot to the extend of being “sinister”, as Jep put it.
So here goes a new list of criteria for the dream girl of mine.
The Physical:
1) Pretty face. Fair, yellowish skin is an advantage. Not too whitey please, because that’s a corpse. Oval face, or elliptic shape is preferred. I hardly fall for circle round / square face shape due to the lack of “femininity” in my standard.
Having said that, not much explanation needed. In simple term, as far as the face can be soothing to look at, as far as I can feel the serenity in the face, that’s enough. You can refer to my exes faces to know my taste. LOL.
2) Not too tall, not too skinny – a model shape is a big no no. As explained in my previous criteria, I am short and I don’t feel comfortable should I have to look up everytime I stand besides her. 1.6m is the maximum height, I guess. As per not too skinny, I don’t like somebody who doesn’t have any weight at all. But not too fat as well.
Having said that, it is more or less the suitable, healthy shape that’s more important. A big boob is surely appealing, but that’s not really my type so girls, you don’t have to go for an implant.
3) Veiled or no veiled. I don’t mind this at all. You can wear veil, or you can free your hair. This goes for any other things like – wear glasses or not, short hair or long hair, blonde or brunette or black hair etc.
This thing has no effects on my decision.
Easy huh? I am not too adamant in selecting the physical. As long as you’re cute or sweet or feminine or gentle, that’s the girls type I like. But, its the mental or attitudes that always bother me. That is what important. Read on..
The Mental / Attitude:
1) old;font-style:italic;color:rgb(204,204,204);">Loyal
. I have trusts issues with my previous ex. The thing is, I live my life with principles. I know that I need to sacrifice when I am in a relationship. I know that I need to limit myself when I am in a relationship. And that’s what I expected in return when I am in a relationship.
I am not easily jealous if the principals are being held true. But once broken, my insecurities will seep in, and to hell you’ll go…
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/>2) old;font-style:italic;color:rgb(204,204,204);">Can be mentally challenged. Because I have principles, I like people who have their own thoughts and opinions too. Someone that I can argue points with. Someone that I can discussed with. Someone that is not afraid of saying their points, and one who can backed up their points with facts or proves or alibis. Someone who knows things apart from fashion statement or pop gossips.
Again, this was a problem with my exes. A rule of thumb, I am not always right, but you got to prove me wrong.
3) old;font-style:italic;color:rgb(204,204,204);">One who not change me to who I am not. This is as similar in the previous criteria. Don’t ever try, because I won’t do it. I am a heavy smoker, a believer of freedom of speech, a bookworm, a geek, a philosopher, loves catchy music from rock to jazz to pop to indie, loves words, a chivalrous romantic, a long hair person and a perfectionist.
Having said that, I despise people who commented things that cannot be changed. Those are fixed, not variables. Yes you can still jokes about that to me, but there’s a thin line between jokes and commenting.
4) Open minded. I know you’re a girl and you have all the femininity inside you, but I tend to be harsh and egoistic at times. My view on the world is radical. I am a skeptic. I believe that I have rooms, and so do you. I believe that everyone has their own evil, so I need to be “evil” on certain matters. Even though it sounds ironic to the fact that I am a chivalrous romantic, I can’t deny that when I curse, I curse hard.
5) Has confidence. This doesn’t mean that you cannot go to me to blabber about your nervousness or your worry, but I hate to repeat the same advise. When I’ve said it, then that’s it. Up to you to hold your heads high. It turned me off to see one who still have “but..”, “but..” in an endless repetition.
Just ask how many close friends of mine that have been laughed in the face by me when they repeat their own mistake? Almost all. You know the things, but you still have doubts. I am not going to be so gentle on that. So gain your confidence.
6) A bit of romantic and attentive. As said previously, I am a chivalrous romantic person. I can and I will give you all the attentions needed. But I am also a person that need attention as well as the love being said. So I expect to get the similar return of what I always done.
It’s bored to give but has nothing to take, right? But again, not too much lovey dovey. Spare me some time and room. Refer to #4.
Also, a little bit of talkative is also good. That’s what I called attentive. I am not a good conversation starter.
