Also, sorry if my post previously sounded sad or unhappy or whatnot. Up to the extent some of the peeps said that I am quite reserved. Truth been said, I gotta admit that. I think I have lost the personal “Dr. Love” touch that was once my legacy. What to say? Bitterness crumbs still there.
So I am getting a little bit personal this time. Anyway, a quick update first of what have been happening around me at this point of my disappearance time…
- I got a ThinkPad. That means a good thing (I am now mobile) and a bad thing (workload increase as expected)
- I went to MMU for the Academic Initiative. It was fun and it was a whole new experience to give a presentation in front of enthusiastic students + lecturers.
- I also went to MMU for their charity concert. Got to hang out with my cousin’s friend and watch a good concert (apart from the unorganized event flow)
- Went to Euphonious 2008 and I enjoyed it with all my friends there. Not going to post much about that – you can refer to here, here, here, here and here.
- Went to Dilla’s wedding with itisjan03 – enjoyed it as well to see all the familiar faces again.
Just some pictures to spice up the post:
L to R : Jakas, Megi, Muner, Me (yes I know my hair is getting longer LOL)
Dilla’s wedding – picture stolen from Shah’s blog (I am still waiting the picture of the couple with the itisjan03….)Okay, we’re cool? So here’s the personal part. This happened on the way back to Kuala Lumpur after Dilla’s wedding. In the car was me (driving), Zhu, Jamie, and Intan M. Conversation happened as below:
Jamie: Adek, ko bila pulak nak kawen? (Translation: Adek (referring to my nickname), when’s your time to get married then?)Me: Aku single lagi, tadek calon, camne nak kawen? (Translation: I am still single, no candidates for wife, how to get married?)
Intan M: Oooo.. so, kalau camtu, apa kriteria perempuan yang ko nak? Meh kita tolong calon-calonkan.. (Translation: Ooo.. so, if that’s the case, what’s the criteria that you’re looking for a girl? Let me try to find the candidate..)
Me: ………………
Seriously, I don’t know what to say that time! So they started asking questions and I just throw out any answers that I have in mind at that time. So nice of you, Intan and Jamie! 
. For that, I made a promise to myself to blog about this.
Well, I did blog about the dream girl that I wanted in this post long ago, but as my favourite saying goes: “What we are is always the same, but who we are, will never stop changing“..
And I’ve changed. A lot. A whole damn lot to the extend of being “sinister”, as Jep put it.
So here goes a new list of criteria for the dream girl of mine.
The Physical:1) Pretty face. Fair, yellowish skin is an advantage. Not too whitey please, because that’s a corpse. Oval face, or elliptic shape is preferred. I hardly fall for circle round / square face shape due to the lack of “femininity” in my standard.
Having said that, not much explanation needed. In simple term, as far as the face can be soothing to look at, as far as I can feel the serenity in the face, that’s enough. You can refer to my exes faces to know my taste. LOL.
2) Not too tall, not too skinny – a model shape is a big no no. As explained in my previous criteria, I am short and I don’t feel comfortable should I have to look up everytime I stand besides her. 1.6m is the maximum height, I guess. As per not too skinny, I don’t like somebody who doesn’t have any weight at all. But not too fat as well.
Having said that, it is more or less the suitable, healthy shape that’s more important. A big boob is surely appealing, but that’s not really my type so girls, you don’t have to go for an implant.
3) Veiled or no veiled. I don’t mind this at all. You can wear veil, or you can free your hair. This goes for any other things like – wear glasses or not, short hair or long hair, blonde or brunette or black hair etc.
This thing has no effects on my decision.
Easy huh? I am not too adamant in selecting the physical. As long as you’re cute or sweet or feminine or gentle, that’s the girls type I like. But, its the mental or attitudes that always bother me. That is what important. Read on..
The Mental / Attitude:1) old;font-style:italic;color:rgb(204,204,204);">Loyal. I have trusts issues with my previous ex. The thing is, I live my life with principles. I know that I need to sacrifice when I am in a relationship. I know that I need to limit myself when I am in a relationship. And that’s what I expected in return when I am in a relationship.I am not easily jealous if the principals are being held true. But once broken, my insecurities will seep in, and to hell you’ll go…
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/>2) old;font-style:italic;color:rgb(204,204,204);">Can be mentally challenged. Because I have principles, I like people who have their own thoughts and opinions too. Someone that I can argue points with. Someone that I can discussed with. Someone that is not afraid of saying their points, and one who can backed up their points with facts or proves or alibis. Someone who knows things apart from fashion statement or pop gossips.Again, this was a problem with my exes. A rule of thumb, I am not always right, but you got to prove me wrong.
3) old;font-style:italic;color:rgb(204,204,204);">One who not change me to who I am not. This is as similar in the previous criteria. Don’t ever try, because I won’t do it. I am a heavy smoker, a believer of freedom of speech, a bookworm, a geek, a philosopher, loves catchy music from rock to jazz to pop to indie, loves words, a chivalrous romantic, a long hair person and a perfectionist.Having said that, I despise people who commented things that cannot be changed. Those are fixed, not variables. Yes you can still jokes about that to me, but there’s a thin line between jokes and commenting.
4) Open minded. I know you’re a girl and you have all the femininity inside you, but I tend to be harsh and egoistic at times. My view on the world is radical. I am a skeptic. I believe that I have rooms, and so do you. I believe that everyone has their own evil, so I need to be “evil” on certain matters. Even though it sounds ironic to the fact that I am a chivalrous romantic, I can’t deny that when I curse, I curse hard.
5) Has confidence. This doesn’t mean that you cannot go to me to blabber about your nervousness or your worry, but I hate to repeat the same advise. When I’ve said it, then that’s it. Up to you to hold your heads high. It turned me off to see one who still have “but..”, “but..” in an endless repetition.
Just ask how many close friends of mine that have been laughed in the face by me when they repeat their own mistake? Almost all. You know the things, but you still have doubts. I am not going to be so gentle on that. So gain your confidence.
6) A bit of romantic and attentive. As said previously, I am a chivalrous romantic person. I can and I will give you all the attentions needed. But I am also a person that need attention as well as the love being said. So I expect to get the similar return of what I always done.
It’s bored to give but has nothing to take, right? But again, not too much lovey dovey. Spare me some time and room. Refer to #4.
Also, a little bit of talkative is also good. That’s what I called attentive. I am not a good conversation starter.
Or any girls out there wanted to offer yourself? tee hee hee.
shooot. you sure talkative. you sure charming and abrasive. you sure lovely.
i wonder why woman really love to change the man they love.
entah lah, you criteria is too hard for some woman kot. hehehe.
erk..can i nominate myself? lalalaa.
I don’t know…
I can set how the physical. But I never have any ,… ape org kate rules regarding the heart.
Meaning that, I had date different type of guys , each with their own weaknesses and strengths.
to me… it always come back to how I feel.
Then as I grew older, how they treat me..
and older… how they would treat me.
But all the best. Nah.. the physical part is not too bad of a criteria that you set.. and its true.. you never know whom you are gonna like. But the emotional part… its going to take some sorts of a compromise.
But as I grew older , I do think compromise is everything. Well, almost everything to make it work.
mangi: am i??? am i??? hahaha. maybe i am in front of people that I comfy with.
but with a total stranger, that statement can be quite a disagreement.
p/s: are u a girl? LOL.
dils: its always the heart that makes me need to put a rule. Not much of a rule pun actually, coz that’s me. its just some things that I cannot compromise.
I can compromise any other things. if u like shopping, i am ok with that. if u like girly stuff, i am far more ok with that.
i can treat people the way they wanted it. that’s what i am proud of. ask my ex, they’ll surely say i am not only a tad, but a lot of romantic. its just that i can’t find any other people treat me the same.
so the compromising part is not from me, but from others.
p/s: you as a girl, do u think i am asking too much?
adek,
semoge kau jumpe ape yang kau mahu
mia: tq! ape kata ko pn mencarikkan aku sesiapa yg mahu menjadi calon? LOL.
wahh.. tadi punye la panjang aku comment rupanye tak publish… Tidaaaaakkkk..
Haha. Malas plak nak komen panjang lg
But adeq , to answer ur question, it is not too much. But it is a lot and not ALL of the criteria you can found in the gal you like. As previously mentioned but lost forever in cyberspace, if u do met this kind of girl, sometimes kalo jumpa pon tak semestinye interested bukan.
Soo.. gud luck aje la that I cam say.
I do not envy you in jumping back to the world of first dates. Huhu…
can i volunteer 2 be ur candidate? >_<
jakas: ko laki2. cis. ko aku bg kat yayi je lah. LOL.
dils: hmmm… yeah. more or less. but at least i had a guide
thx for the good luck oso. LOL.
p/s: br nk baca ko nye comment panjang2. lenkali save la dulu dlm notepad ke
lelol, jmie ade citer kat aku sal nih, pastu dier tny aku lak criteria haha xmo aku bgtau,
cam bad luck je bile bgtau criteria cos people will start to judge and when they to judge normally things tends to move away
ever heard the answer “i’m not good enough for you” frm a gal when u asked the jackpot Q? its a BS answer but u’ll get it often especially when the gal u like knows ur criteria.
ape2 pon gudluck wakaka.
/me entering 4th year of singleship lol
-jep-
(mls aku nk sign in wordpress)
haha. demmit. jamie nih nk bukak agensi mencarik jodoh ke ape? sume org dia tanya. LOL.
well, i guess i wanted to be judged. at least when in a relationship, she knows what to expect. ;p
isn’t that a good thing? LOL.
getting the answer “im not good enough for you” breaks the law #5 on mental/attitude. that’s a turn off.
cmon, hv some confidence. im not an angel either! ;p
wahahah. demmit ko nye rekod takleh pecah aku dowh. the last time pn 3 years singleship. nih nak kene start blk. br 1. LOL.
jep ngumpat aku secara terang2an di mana2..cess…
hoho… aku ngn intan kan da de calon tuk ko dek? yg kitorang sebut ritu la. cuma maybe bg ko dia kurus sgt kot. tp comey ape, n im sure dia x kesah ngn heavy smoker (hehe..ko pun tau sbb per =p )
Hmm..
Ni kira dah boleh jadi guidelines mcm dalam cite The Spiderwick Chronicle..
Yohohohoho~
Jamie: wahahaha. nama pn jep.
jamie, i doubt that calon lepas or not all the 6 mental criteria. agak2 lepas ke? 
Genjo: aku tak tgk lg citer tuh, so aku tatau cmne maksud ko about guidelines.
ala adek. am not a girl, not a boy either. am controversial~ wakakaka.
malas nak mencari, biar mak carik kan je. work it out with her later. right now, i have me, myself and moi to take care of.
i think am the man who should get married first and loving second. need a homely type here. the one who love the introvert!
btw, better carik anak yatim doo…takyah susah2 ngadap mak bapak dia. balik kampung utk raya pun takyah nak berebut nak balik kampung mana satu.
eh..dah offtopic.
jmie aku x ngumpat, ko di kire sokongan utk ayat aku, kalo xde nama ko nnt adek blur, baik kn niat nyer(ngaha ngumpat in a good term)
lol tatau ar, aku sll open sal menda2 nih, until aku rs cam backfired lak hahaha.
kalo in a relationship digalakkn, so bleh phm memahami, tp yg b4 tu ler sll jd palat haha(based on personal exp wakak). buang masa aku je berusaha, last2 dpt jawapn bangsat haha
-jep-
sekali lg mls nk login
aku macam ade kriteria number 6!
hahahhahhaa.
Haha!
Lelaki Sagi memang picky.
Cinta akan datang.
Tak payah ada criteria.
Let it come naturally.
Aku berani jamin kau akan jatuh cinta tergolek dengan seorang perempuan yang sangat lain physical appearance dia dari apa yang kau nak.
Believe me. Heh.
Oh, nak lagi best, jadi kawan dulu, kenal hati budi dulu.
Jadi best friend dulu.
Tapi takper, kau masih muda lagi dalam kehidupan.
You have lots of time to find your true love.
Mangi: transgender???? OMG.
ape kata ko plak wat ko nye criteria? heh heh heh. that could be nice. ;p
jep: hahahaha. bg aku, its better from start of rship. but different person different ways. LOL. biar la dpt jwpn bangsat, sng aku membangsatkan gk wahahaha.
chunna: nyah, ko lepas sume mental/attitude. tp mcm aku kata, physical ko jer tak lepas! ko tinggi sgt! wahahhaa ;p
Anon: oi tadek nama ke? gile pengecut guna anonymous.
and what’s wrong with having criterias? lgpun, as stated, its not the physical criteria yg aku gile2 kan. its the mental/attitude. plz read again, coward.
thus, making your statement cannot be believed. believe you? who are you to say that to me? heh.
oh and I just hate anonymous. And i hate most anonymous that is saying like they know me. f.o.
byk nyer kriteria! hehe moge ko ketemu ape yg ko mahu~
adek: done. ada new entry kat my blog about my criteria. enjoy reading it.
p/s: am not a girl, not a boy either. lalalala.
menarik post ni..
takpe adek, xlama lagi ko jumpe la tu..xlama lagi..hehehe..bak kata seseorang di atas, ko jadi bestfriend ngn org tu dulu kot..pastu br jadi kekacih lak..hehe..nasib baik ko adorable, sng skit pencarian ko ;P all the best adek! kalo dh jumpe jgn lupe buat post bertajuk “Ku telah temui apa yang kucari” hehehe…
hazel: eh.. tak byk.. 6 je
mangi: scan that already. will comment later.
nad: hehehe. baper lama tak lama tu?
baeklah, kalau aku jumpa nnt aku buat post tu. 
p/s: aku adorable? hik hik.
bespren? huhu imho a guy n a gurl shud not be besprens..else things will get complicated
ko mmg adorable adek~
sbb tu aku volunteer nk jadi partner ko, tp ko xnk… 
mak aii… tertinggal rupenyer aku.. saksi ketika episod ini berlaku dlm idup adek…
tp ble bace nad ckp adek “adorable”… aku cam haa??? part mane tuh?
ko menten gay la adek, ramai jer offer diri tuh.. ok per.. gay is cool… hahhaha
p.s: daku percaya adek akan kurang suka sama komen ini…
sekian trime kasih..
jakas: euwwww!!! demm.
zhu: errr.. no words gk lah. LOL.
Pokoknya Cinta
i think this is the 1st time i comment on adek’s post.ok b4 dat,i’m his ex..(ooohhh..;p)the 1st one ar..
hmmm..as he said,i didnt have some of the criteria..which one ar?3rd,4th,5th?okay,wutever,it was ena in 2002.hahaha..(woi aku xnk kalah!);p
but my personal opinion la kn..apa yg kite nk itu la yg kite slalu x dpt..(yeah,from my personal experience)..so i just want to advise don’t be afraid to experiment.somehow u’ll find what u dream of is not what u really want.we make mistake.we are human beings after all..
in,i just hope u will find your dream girl ok.gambatte ne!(oopss..nk aku tlg cari kn ke?)
–> anyway i like these lines
“Having said that, not much explanation needed. In simple term, as far as the face can be soothing to look at, as far as I can feel the serenity in the face, that’s enough. You can refer to my exes faces to know my taste. LOL.”
gagaga..;D
enol: i thought i heard it from u sometime ago – cinta je tak bole idop?
*sarcastic* LOL.
ina: its not really the first time u commenting act
hehe. ladies and gentlemen, proudly presenting to u.. my ex! 
(ohhh… btw, note to her current bf, don’t worry bout ur rship. im a philosopher and its my philosophy not to disturb what other people “own”. I don’t take back my exes anyway 
)
haha i know ur changed already. but its the fact that u hate my smoking habit previously!
hmm.. making mistakes kinda taboo for me. im a perfectionist, remember? that’s why all the criteria.
and im done experimenting anyway. i made mistake previously, and i learnt from it. it just bother me that the other exes (MYFEG) don’t learnt her mistake and keep repeating it like shit.
Quote from Yuna’s Polaroid: “Everytime you’re fucking proud of what you’re not, it is the truth that you won’t be a history”
hehe. u can take the credits for the line you pasted
p/s: nk carikkan, sile laa..
adeq, yep uve heard from me some time ago. the thing is, kalau ko jumpa sumone yg tip top meet all those 3+6 criterions of yours – yet she doesn’t love you, nor do you love her – then criterions are just left as your imaginary dream girl.
baik ko layan virtual girl je la kat tepi monitor je kalo cenggitu…
waah…that’s too difficult to find..hihu.. Mentally challenged huh? cmna klau vertically challenged? ;p